How To Pick A Best Friend

Written By Sheryl Shaffer

Everyone loves to have a best friend! You know…that bosom kind of friend that Anne of Green Gables referred to so often. Girls like to have a friend that they can just tell anything and everything to and she will protect their secrets…even when she shouldn't. Yet, think about this…. The first person who ever loved you and protected you with her very life, is most often the friend that girls run to get away from as they grow older.
There is no other friend who knows everything about you and would still give her life to protect you anymore than your very own mother. I have seen girls verbally and emotionally abuse their mother in their teenage years and then withdraw from them as they turn to girlfriends for validation and friendship. What a shame! That is a choice you will regret later. I guarantee it! Strive to keep close to your mother. Realize she is not perfect, neither does she have perfect children, but there is great reward for you when you love and honor her.

Ephesians 6:2 "Honour thy father and thy mother; (which is the first commandment with promise)."

Deuteronomy 5:16 "Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

Make a friend of your mother and your father. Why?

1. It's a commandment from God; so we ought to listen.

2. Because God will add more days onto the length of your life. That may not seem like a big deal now, but twenty years from now that will be a HUGE thing!

3. "….and that it may go well with thee…" Every person, who has troubled his own soul by dishonoring or becoming embittered toward his parents, has endured a life of hardships and sad events. It's the truth!

I know a woman today who was continuously rebellious toward her parents and any authority that she did not agree with; and her life has been marked by one trial after another. Wayward, angry, defiant children are her legacy. Tragedies of every kind, from health crises, estranged children, financial disasters and a myriad of other catastrophes, dot the landscape of their home and family. Things have
not gone well with them. Pride holds them in bondage as they blame others for their hardships and all the while their children are doomed to repeat the struggle.

Girls, it doesn't have to be that way for you. Just obey God! Do it now. Humble yourself and in brokenness…repent. Ask your mother to forgive you, and allow her to be your best friend! Don't let your selfishness cause you to miss out on having the best friend you could ever have in this life!


Make a best friend out of your mother. You'll be glad you did!