Written by Sheryl Shaffer
Some of you girls may not have ever known your daddy. He may not have been a part of your life. Other girls had a father who did not treat them well. Perhaps he hurt them physically or emotionally in some way. If this has been your situation, I’m so sorry that life was that way for you. That should not have been the way it was. But those are circumstances that cannot be changed. You cannot live in despair and regret over what you missed out on. That will only hurt you if you mourn your life away over this deep sadness. You must trust that God will use what you have missed, to be a help and blessing to someone else along life’s way. Always remember....God makes no mistakes!
Then there are other girls who have enjoyed the privilege of growing up with a father in the home but have taken their Daddy for granted.
One of the saddest things to see, is a young girl who once adored her Daddy, but now she finds him a nuisance. He is no longer the favorite man in her life. She finds him troublesome, geeky or out of touch. Where she once found everything he said, funny and interesting, now she is embarrassed by him. She no longer loves to spend time with him. She no longer looks up to him or reverences him. He is no longer interesting to her.
How very sad that is, for she is missing out on what many girls would give their right arm, to have.
Girls, stay acquainted with your daddy as you grow older. As little girls begin to grow up, it can sometimes be awkward for your Dad. The little girl he liked to bounce and tumble with, is no longer a little girl. Kind hearted Dads, do not like to play roughly with maturing daughters and if both of you are not careful, distance can grow between you. In an effort to be careful, you won’t know each other as well. While you are busy growing up, he is busy working hard to take care of your family, and before you know it, you are 17 and he doesn’t know what to do with the big girl you have become.
Help your Dad to know you, by letting him know what is going on in your life. Talk to him. Tell him what is happening in your day. Ask him questions about life and things you hear about that you don’t understand. He has learned many things about life. Some of them he learned the hard way .... but he can teach them to you....if you’ll take the time to ask him.
Don’t be selfish with your time. Take time for your parents. Keep your heart open to them. You never outgrow your need for a daddy. Even when you become an old woman, you will talk much about what your Daddy taught you and what he was in your life.
Enjoy the special times that you have with your Dad. Don’t despise them or him. What you enjoy is a very precious gift! Appreciate your Daddy....God’s gift to you!
This was precious! Dianne C.
ReplyDeleteI am one of those blessed girls who grew up with a wonderful Daddy that loves spending time with me! His answers to the simplest questions are somehwat legendary in our house - but that shows me the love and patience he's had with each of his children. He loves to teach us, and he knows alot!! I'll never forget the summer we cleaned and fixed the gutters together, or more recently, the spiritual discussions that grow out of questions I've had. Though we don't get to spend as much time together as we'd like, I sure do love my Daddy!!
ReplyDeleteI'm still learning this as life gets busier. Time spent with Dad becomes more precious. Our relationship has become more meaningful as the years have passed because I've made a point to stay close to Dad. God has blessed with no regrets and a strong relationship with Dad! Diana
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 13, my dad gave me a bouquet of flowers; I cried. He said "****if I had known she'd cry over a lousy $1 bouquet I wouldn't have bought them!" To me it showed me he did love me. He died when I was 22 and I miss him. My dad was a dad the only way he knew to be a dad. Still I had many years before I could come to terms btwn the flowers he gave me, and a shotgun incident when I was about 8 or 9 - wanted to use me as target practice. I love my dad and I miss him everyday; wondering if he'd be proud of his grandchildren and children. I would want him to know we all grew up well.
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